Do I really miss my EX or do I miss the feeling I got from the relationship? My friends remind me that my opioid-like cravings for my sweet, beautiful, precious ex are not really consistent with how I felt before we split. I was miserable most of the time, though I loved her beyond description. So that craving – in my case - is for the feelings, the experiences I felt when we were together. It's not necessarily for her. You know, I miss the feeling of being connected, loved, adored, respected, relied upon, and needed. But I would never ever allow my ex back into my life – I’d never expose myself to the cold, detached, depersonalizing treatment she doled out. It’s taken me nearly a year to be able to realize that and really believe it. The first helpful step in discontinuing the idolatry was to actually stop looking at her photos!
Comment From EXaholics:
As one of our webinar speakers Mark Hirschfield says so eloquently, "it's the feelings we miss...not the EX." We may find a lot of truth in that statement. We may desperately want that feeling back. But we may believe the only way to get it is through the EX. But what if we can feel something similar from a different source? Sleep on it.
