This site was created for the population of Exaholics. Losing a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, fiancé, partner, or any significant person in life, for whom you have (or have had) romantic feelings, can be an extremely painful experience. Getting over the loss can be one of the most traumatic and difficult challenges you'll face. To others this might sound overly dramatic. To such judgmental people, serious problems include only devastating matters as a serious medical condition, getting laid off from work, and other "real" problems and life challenges. But we are well aware that what you go through is certainly very real and emotionally devastating. And you are the one living with these emotions on a daily basis.
Not everyone suffers in the same way. Some spend the majority of time thinking about the other person with a high degree of intensity. For this person, functioning is severely diminished and there may be symptoms like weight loss, depression, loss of sleep, sleeping too much, inability to get out of bed, inability to concentrate, excessive sadness, no interest in dating, and inability to even think of anyone else romantically.
Some are at a functioning level, but still find themselves missing something. They think about the other person often and find it hard to completely move on or become interested in new people. They are slow to rediscover their own identity and explore their own interests. They may have a hard time being alone.
Still for others, the hard part is taking charge of their own lives and turning the page. They may even have made some peace with the loss, but still lack the motivation or ability to create their own destiny. For this group it may be difficult to hit the reset button and develop a new routine in life.
Whichever category you fit into, whether listed here or not, the reality is there is a lot to get through, and to get over. The baggage, misery, obsessive thoughts, fear, self loathing, regret, sadness, anger, boredom, purposelessness, and all that is felt must not be left for you alone to solve.
The reality is we all need…..
EACH OTHER.
And once you've been able to determine for yourself whether or not you could actually be an Exaholic, the process of recovery may truly begin. There may come a day when you have learned so much about yourself, that you finally realize that your self worth and happiness belong strictly to YOU.
